🌶 Hot debatekorean couples are arguing about this 9-step daily texting routine: basic or too much?

The lunch photo AND who you ate with?? That's not a routine, that's a parole check-in. I'd last two days

The bundling comment is the sane answer. Four short messages a day isn't too much. Turning it into a checklist is what kills it

Basic if you're 20. Too much if you have a job

vocab: 기본 (gibon) = basic, 과하다 (gwahada) = too much. Learned two words and one red flag

My last relationship ended because I forgot step 4 for a week. Not joking. Mostly joking

Devil's advocate: if you can't send "ate lunch, it was bibimbap" to someone you love, what are you doing all day

the bubble comment lol if my bias sent me 9 messages a day i'd answer every single one in 0.2 seconds

is the goodnight call every day normal in Korea?

In Mexico this would be normal for the first three months and then you both get tired lol

Good morning and goodnight messages are really common for Korean couples, so most of the list isn't that wild for people in their 20s. The photo of who you ate with is the extreme part

My partner gets "alive" around 2pm and "home" at night. Four years, we're fine

I struggle to send one text a day to my own mother. Nine is a full-time job

It's less about the number and more about whether one person is checking. If both enjoy it, that's just chatting

In Japan I think the lunch photo with who you ate with would end a lot of relationships

Step 9 is a goodnight call. Step 10 is filing a quarterly report

Honestly a lunch photo is how I find new restaurants. I'd keep step 4 and drop the rest

Skipping one step is nothing for some couples. For others a missed lunch report means 20 questions at dinner

Feels like a younger couples thing. Friends of mine in their 30s in Busan mostly just send "home" and a sticker

Nine steps is a lot. Four bundled is normal. The real question is who wrote this list and what happened to them

"Call me maybe" became "call me mandatory"

Nine daily quests with no rewards. Even mobile gacha games give you a login bonus

The lunch photo part is fine with me. The who-you-ate-with part is where I'd need a lawyer

My wife and I have a two-step routine: "where are you" and "bring milk"

Norwegian routine: one message, "ok". Two if it's serious *grabs popcorn*

I used to think this was romantic and now I just think it's a lot of typing

what happens if you skip one? like is it a fight or just a "you ok?"

is this more of a younger couples thing?

Step 5 being scheduled between lunch and leaving work is so funny. "I miss you" at exactly 3pm, like a coffee break

In France we'd skip all nine and call on Sunday to complain about the week. Somehow it works

I'd do all nine for the first month and then send 'alive' like everyone else

the bubble comment 😂 we'd literally pay for that routine from our idol

Old ballads were about waiting for one phone call all night. Now it's nine scheduled check-ins. Not sure which is sadder

I'd send step 1 at 7am, step 2 at 7:01, and then forget the rest until step 9 when they're already asleep

Indian aunties would see the lunch photo with who you ate with and start planning a wedding

The 보고 (report) framing is what makes this so Korean. Dramas did it too, the clingy texting couple is a classic side plot, usually the comic relief

Nine check-ins a day is a training schedule, not a relationship. Even pre-season isn't this strict

If both people like it, it's sweet. Just please never make it a rule

The list itself is harmless. The person who needs it written down is the interesting part

Vocab: 칼답 (kaldap), "knife reply", answering instantly. The routine basically assumes both people are 칼답 people

Random fact: Korean dating forums are full of 연락 문제 (contact problem) posts, so a list like this was bound to show up eventually

Steps 1 to 3 are fine. The moment there's a photo requirement I'm out