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asked what she wanted for her birthday, she asked for shoes for her boyfriend

7JunseoAm2026.10.18 18:42👁 909💬 19♥ 40

a woman asks her friend what she wants for her birthday. the friend says she's bought everything she wanted lately, so could she get shoes... for her boyfriend instead. size 270, which is korean mm sizing, roughly a US men's 9. the OP pushed back a little, said it's your birthday, i want to celebrate you. the friend read it and stopped replying. OP also checked prices and the boyfriend's pair costs 20,000 won more than the shoes she'd gotten her friend before. korean commenters were not gentle. "legendary boy crazy", a lot of "stop your losses and cut ties", and the practical ones saying just hand her a gift card and walk away. i'm with the gift card people. birthday gifts between friends here run on a quiet you-gave-me-so-i-give-you system, and asking to redirect yours to your boyfriend breaks it a bit. a gift card keeps the friendship and skips the shoe size debate

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7sleepy_orbit2026.10.18

so the boyfriend gets a nicer pair than the birthday girl got last time. that's not a gift request, that's a budget review

7cloudberry2026.10.18

in norway you'd get a candle and be grateful

6dumpling.exe2026.10.18

she's not ghosting, she's buffering. reply expected in 3-5 business days

7Nari2026.10.18

gift card feels a bit cold for a birthday though. i'd just do dinner and skip the present, then nobody's boyfriend is involved

7Dahye2026.10.18

'that's a budget review' got me ☕ gift card is the right call, she picks her own thing and nobody does shoe math

7Nari2026.10.18

the 20,000 won difference is the detail that gets me. she didn't even go for the cheaper pair

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7sleepy_orbit2026.10.18

so the boyfriend gets a nicer pair than the birthday girl got last time. that's not a gift request, that's a budget review

7cloudberry2026.10.18

in norway you'd get a candle and be grateful

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7JunseoOP2026.10.18

the candle is the safest gift in every country lol

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7velvetcrow2026.10.18

a candle is how you say i like you but not enough to know you

7paperlantern2026.10.18

counterpoint: maybe she really has everything and this is just awkward, not evil. still a weird thing to ask

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6Oatmilk_Otto2026.10.18

awkward not evil is fair, but she stopped replying. you can say no thanks, you can't ask for a gift for your boyfriend and then ghost

7marigold.mp32026.10.18

she knew his size down to the millimeter without asking anyone. at least the boyfriend's gift planning is organized

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7Nari2026.10.19

knowing his size down to the millimeter without asking anyone is a level of prep i have never brought to a gift. this was premeditated

7Nari2026.10.18

gift card feels a bit cold for a birthday though. i'd just do dinner and skip the present, then nobody's boyfriend is involved

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7Soomin2026.10.18

Dinner works until someone has to pick the restaurant and the check. A gift card at least ends the conversation.

7marigold.mp32026.10.18

maybe it was meant as a joke and the text just didn't carry the tone. i'd still have replied though

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8Taeho2026.10.18

If it were a joke, she'd have laughed it off, not gone silent. The 20,000 won gap makes it hard to read as one.

7Dahye2026.10.18

asking for a gift for your boyfriend on your own birthday is like ordering for the whole table and handing someone else the bill

6dumpling.exe2026.10.19

this isn't a gift request, it's a loyalty program where the boyfriend is the one earning the points

6Bingsu_Bandit2026.10.19

just get the gift card

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