A fan at a fansign asked Haechan for tips on dealing with hate comments. His answer: think of them as gifts, and since they're gifts, you're allowed to refuse them.
Writing this on a sticky note and putting it on my forehead.
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Footballers mute their mentions after a missed penalty. Saying 'return to sender' out loud to a fan's face is a braver move.
self-care is accepting the gift and leaving it unopened outside the door
*screams* ok but who pays the shipping on the return
There's a similar idea in Japanese mail, 受取拒否, where you refuse to accept a parcel and it goes back to the sender. Polite, and kind of savage
mindset helps, but people who handle hate well usually have someone telling them 'you're fine' every day. hope he has that group chat. hope all of us do
이게 해찬이지 (that's so Haechan). this is exactly why we never worry about him
the kid who used to be the group's chaos is giving TED talks at fansigns now
next he sells the course. 'Refuse the Gift: a 12-week program'
I can't even refuse a free sample at the supermarket. refusing a gift is next level
self-care is accepting the gift and leaving it unopened outside the door
good line, but it's easier when you have a company filtering the worst of it for you
lol true, still a mindset worth borrowing
a company can filter the comments, but it can't say it to a fan's face at a fansign. that part was all him
both can be true. the company filters the worst, and he still had to say this with a straight face to a stranger holding a lightstick
he made 'return to sender' sound cute. that's the actual talent
mindset helps, but people who handle hate well usually have someone telling them 'you're fine' every day. hope he has that group chat. hope all of us do
There's a similar idea in Japanese mail, 受取拒否, where you refuse to accept a parcel and it goes back to the sender. Polite, and kind of savage
Haechan opened a return desk at a fansign. no receipt needed, 해찬 post office, we accept all negativity as undeliverable
No receipt, no refund, no mercy. Best customer service in K-pop.
해찬 post office, five stars. would return negativity again, free shipping both ways
lol true, 해찬 post office needs a real branch
returned a gift to my aunt once. I'm still hearing about it 3 years later. 눈치 zero, grandma lore forever
cute line, but 'refuse the gift' gets harder when it's 400 gifts and one of them knows your school
lol true, the 400 gifts part is the real problem
refusing the gift. adding that to my vocabulary
sticky note on the forehead, I need the photo for the album of this fandom!!
forehead sticky note as the prop for my next dance cover. I'm in, full commitment
*screams* ok but who pays the shipping on the return
paid in aegyo, obviously. that's their whole shipping department
my sister sends me notes on my playlists and I accept every one. return policy: none. self-care: also none
Cute line. Not sure 'refuse' works when the gifts keep showing up every day though.
refusing is a one-time decision, the 3am scroll is every day. the sticky note is doing a lot of heavy lifting
Vocab: 거절 (geojeol) = refusal. Great line, but I'd like to see him refuse a gift from his own grandma first. That's the real final boss.
grandma gifts have a zero-day return window and also you have to finish the plate. he'd fold in about four seconds
also respect to the fan who asked. imagine getting three seconds with your bias and spending them on therapy
I work retail so I can confirm returning stuff politely is a real skill. he just applied it to feelings
*screams* he said that to a stranger holding a lightstick and then probably went to eat chicken. the composure. I can't
Hate comments are just unsolicited gifts from people with too much free time. Regift to the group chat.
regifting hate to the group chat is how you lose the group chat
Footballers mute their mentions after a missed penalty. Saying 'return to sender' out loud to a fan's face is a braver move.
nice line, but gifts at least have a visible giver. most of these are anonymous parcels, no return address, so 'refuse' is easier said than done
Great advice. My brain has been signing for every package since 2019.
signing for every package since 2019 is such a specific kind of tired lol
I'd refuse the gift, then open it anyway at 1am with a bowl of Shin Ramyun and read it twice. That's the part he skipped.
1am Shin Ramyun is the real return policy. No receipt, extra egg.
easy to say when millions of people are screaming your name. my hate-comment department is a group chat of four and one of them is my sister